Have you lost touch with yourself?

As women, we are naturally very in tune with ourselves, in touch with our bodies, minds and souls. We tend to be inward focusing and very receptive to how we are feeling on every level.

But in the hustle and bustle of today’s society it's easy to get disconnected from ourselves. With the constant distractions and external demands, we tend to lose the connection ourselves. 

This unfortunate truth hit me hard recently. I was really struggling, feeling pretty burnt out physically, mentally and emotionally.  I tried to ignore how I was feeling and tried to just “push through it”. Surprise, surprise that didn’t work. It only left me feeling more depleted and defeated. This was clearly my body’s way of forcing me to listen by giving me no choice but to rest.  

I was saddened to realize how much I was ignoring myself. The little voice telling me, “this is a lot to handle right now” and “can we just slow down a little”. It started off as a whisper, but escalated to a full out scream before I decided to listen. 

This urged me to reconnect to this innate ability to be in touch with my body, mind and soul. Embracing a feminine energy of being and feeling instead of doing. And it has been liberating. 

It hasn’t been perfect, but I am being more intentional about listening to what my body is telling me, what it needs and what it doesn’t. And more importantly honouring it, by responding to what it’s asking, without any guilt or other negative emotions attached to it. I have been embracing slowing down and doing what feels in alignment with how I'm feeling instead of what I “should” be doing. 

Here are tips that have helped me reconnect to myself. 

Pay attention to pesky symptoms. Think of symptoms as an alarm system, your body’s way of letting you know that it isn’t happy and that something needs to change. This can look different for everyone, but can take the form of fatigue, lack of motivation, headaches, muscle or joint pain, moodiness, irritability, anxiety, sleep issues, digestive concerns or so much more. These alarms often start off quiet, with mild symptoms, however they get louder and louder until we can’t ignore them anymore. It can be helpful to reflect on what can be causing the symptoms, what makes them better and what makes them worse.

Slow down and embrace silence. With all of the distractions and high-paced nature of our lifestyles, it is refreshing to take time to yourself, away from distractions to slow down and truly connect to your body. Take time daily to quiet your mind and focus on your breathing. You might be surprised what comes up for you, especially if you ask yourself what you need right now. Ram Das said “the quieter you become, the more you can hear” and I think best relates to listening to your body, mind and soul. 

Intentionally check in with yourself. Instead of waiting for the alarm systems to go off in your body, proactively check-in to see how you are feeling. Reflect on things like:

  • Do you feel in alignment with your larger vision for your life?

  • Do you feel energized?

  • Do you feel motivated and inspired?

  • Are you holding on to any thoughts?

  • Are you holding on to any difficult emotions?

  • What stories are you telling yourself?

  • Is there anything bothering you?

Be kind to yourself on this journey, let go of any difficult emotions or judgements that may come when you are listening to and honouring yourself. Simply connect to your body, mind and soul and remember they have our best interests at heart.